Here you can read an excerpt from Mark Travers’ Forbes article providing tips to grow through the early adult years, in which Tasha is featured. You can read the full article by clicking the link at the bottom of the page.
Being in your twenties and early thirties can be an intense experience for the toughest and most driven of individuals. Today, with the added pressures of social media, hustle culture, and a volatile mental health crisis, early and mid-adulthood can feel like a never-ending roller coaster. It may force you to question yourself, saying things like:
- “Am I the only one who feels so unprepared for this phase of my life?”
- “I have never failed at so many things in my life. When will my self-confidence bounce back?”
- “Everyone expects me to suddenly act like an adult but I’ve never felt further from adulthood. How will I learn to bridge the gap?”
Like any other challenging phase of your life, you have to simply ride certain parts of your 20s and early 30s out. However, this time does provide us with a unique opportunity to expand, grow, and embrace ourselves like no other time in our life.
In order to live a life aligned with your own cognitions, emotions, values, and beliefs, one first has to know what they are. You can follow these steps to get in touch with your authentic self:
For a lot of people, their twenties are the first time they experience a long-term relationship. Some may even begin to look for ‘the one’ (if they prefer monogamy). Therefore, developing the skill of dating and romantic experimentation can prove to be extremely helpful for this stretch of life.
Picking someone you want to spend the rest of your life with cannot be a split-second decision, no matter how much rom-coms try to convince us otherwise. The courage to put yourself out there, being vulnerable with another person, and maybe even failing a few times can, at the end of the day, be an immensely enriching experience.
While the experience of dating is unique for everybody, there are a couple of science-backed tips you can keep in mind to hone your skills:
- Date someone smarter than you. They don’t have to be an Ivy League graduate or a Ph.D. holder, however, they should challenge you on an intellectual level. Research suggests that dating an intellectual match can help you grow, ensure better communication, and add longevity to your relationship.
- Be a mindful partner. Even when you are exploring your options, being curious of and tuned in to your partner’s desires, emotions, and needs is essential. According to therapist Tasha Seiter, focusing on how you love is more integral to your love life than who you pick.
To read the full article, click here