Here’s how to tap into female desire with science. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships That look—I know that look well. The furrowed brow, the sense of holding back tears, a slight downward tilt of the head: that look on a female client’s face when she tells me, “Never. I never reallyContinue reading “The Truth About Female Sexual Desire Everyone Should Know”
Category Archives: couples therapy
How to Help a Grieving Loved One
When their heart is broken, let them have yours. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships When someone close to you is experiencing grief, it’s natural to want to jump in and fix it for them. Watching someone suffer brings up discomfort in ourselves. You just want to make it better for them,Continue reading “How to Help a Grieving Loved One”
How to Make Anger Work for Your Relationship
Learn how to use your anger to help, not hurt, your relationship. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships The emotion of anger exists for good reason. You’ve evolved to feel it, as it activates your fight-or-fight response to threats—which kept your ancestors safe when fighting predators off was a necessary survival skill.Continue reading “How to Make Anger Work for Your Relationship”
Improve Your Health Through Mindful Relationships
Mindful relationships are associated with better physical health. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships You may have heard that those who are happily married are more likely to have better physical health, and even lower mortality risk, than those who are not married or in unhappy relationships. That’s because marital conflict creates biological stress,Continue reading “Improve Your Health Through Mindful Relationships”
How to Calm Your Partner Down in Conflict
Practice mindful partnering to be better at conflict. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships That hot-button issue comes up yet again in your relationship. All of a sudden, your partner is angry, and the conversation is completely off the rails. A tiny trigger such as the dishes or talking about plans forContinue reading “How to Calm Your Partner Down in Conflict”
Mindful Relationships May Be Key to Mental Health
Research points to the importance of focusing on your relationships. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships Ever wonder what might underlie and predict the differences between those who live full, satisfying lives and those who can’t seem to break out of their struggle into old age? The results of the longest-running longitudinalContinue reading “Mindful Relationships May Be Key to Mental Health”
The Biggest Lie You’ve Been Told About Stress Relief
The myth of over-breathing and how it hurts, not helps. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships “Take a deep breath.” We’ve all heard those four words. In fact, they’re undoubtedly the most common advice we hear on how to calm down in moments of stress or anxiety. Now, science tells us, deepContinue reading “The Biggest Lie You’ve Been Told About Stress Relief”
5 Ways to Be a Better Partner
What does it mean to be a mindful partner? Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships We hear a lot about the benefits of mindfulness, which can be thought of as relating to the environment or oneself with nonjudgmental, present-moment awareness. But, can we relate in this mindful way to others in our livesContinue reading “5 Ways to Be a Better Partner”
Here’s Why Your Coping Skills Don’t Work
Coping is a subtle form of avoidance that maintains psychological distress. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships You’ve tried everything you can think to do: positive affirmations, relaxation strategies, staying away from triggering situations, talking yourself out of your thoughts. And still, your struggles with your inner demons persist. It might beContinue reading “Here’s Why Your Coping Skills Don’t Work”
Can Fighting with Your Partner Change Your Biology?
The way you communicate with your partner could impact how your body functions. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships Key Points: When you’re in a tiff with your partner, you probably aren’t thinking about how you’re changing the concentration of your body’s hormones for years to come. Recent evidence suggests that theContinue reading “Can Fighting with Your Partner Change Your Biology?”