Behavior can be changed authentically in couples’ therapy by accessing underlying emotions. Key points This post is part 2 of a series. The emotion-focused couples therapist guides clients to first fully connect with and understand their emotions, and then create new responses and interaction patterns (Johnson, 2007). Emotionally focused therapists use emotion tracking, reflecting, and heighteningContinue reading “Rebuilding Couples’ Communication With Emotionally Focused Therapy”
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What to Do When a Partner Feels Like a Roommate
The pattern of mutual withdrawal and how couples can break it. Key points You and your partner hardly ever fight, but something is missing in your relationship—a sense of being lovers, of passion, of emotional intimacy, of closeness. The pain of missing out on a deep love that feels just out of reach is heartbreaking. AndContinue reading “What to Do When a Partner Feels Like a Roommate”
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Emotionally focused therapy can be understood from a bioecological perspective. Key points Bronfenbrenner’s bioecological theory emphasizes the influence of bidirectional interactions between the person, their context, and time, as well as the proximal processes of interaction between these different variables and the developing individual. Proximal processes are seen as the “engines of development,” the mostContinue reading “Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy”
Keeping Your In-Laws Out of Your Relationship
How to validate your partner without bashing your parent. Key points One of the most common problems I see as a couples therapist is trouble with the in-laws. In fact, 75% of couples report having problems with an in-law. It can be hard enough to deal with your own parents, let alone your partner’s parents, who mayContinue reading “Keeping Your In-Laws Out of Your Relationship”
Healthline: What to Do If Your Partner Won’t Consider Couples Therapy
Here you can see a portion of Simone Marie’s Healthline article addressing how to handle discrepancies in desire to go to couples therapy, in which I am mentioned. Read the full article by clicking the link at the bottom of the page. Much like preventive care, couples therapy can do a lot of good For example, oneContinue reading “Healthline: What to Do If Your Partner Won’t Consider Couples Therapy”
Next Avenue: Does It Matter What My Daughter-In-Law Thinks of Me?
Here you can read excerpts from Donna Moriarity’s article published in Next Avenue written for mother-in-laws struggling in their relationship with their daughter-in-laws and wanting to learn how to improve their relationships. If these misunderstandings go unacknowledged, they go underground, according to Dr. Tasha Seiter, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a practice in FortContinue reading “Next Avenue: Does It Matter What My Daughter-In-Law Thinks of Me?”
The Buzz Podcast: The Buzz Around Relationships
Give this podcast a listen to hear about common issues facing relationships today and how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps. Listen on the Buzz Podcast
The Truth About Female Sexual Desire Everyone Should Know
Here’s how to tap into female desire with science. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships That look—I know that look well. The furrowed brow, the sense of holding back tears, a slight downward tilt of the head: that look on a female client’s face when she tells me, “Never. I never reallyContinue reading “The Truth About Female Sexual Desire Everyone Should Know”
How to Help a Grieving Loved One
When their heart is broken, let them have yours. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships When someone close to you is experiencing grief, it’s natural to want to jump in and fix it for them. Watching someone suffer brings up discomfort in ourselves. You just want to make it better for them,Continue reading “How to Help a Grieving Loved One”
How to Make Anger Work for Your Relationship
Learn how to use your anger to help, not hurt, your relationship. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships The emotion of anger exists for good reason. You’ve evolved to feel it, as it activates your fight-or-fight response to threats—which kept your ancestors safe when fighting predators off was a necessary survival skill.Continue reading “How to Make Anger Work for Your Relationship”