Improve Your Health Through Mindful Relationships

Mindful relationships are associated with better physical health. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships You may have heard that those who are happily married are more likely to have better physical health, and even lower mortality risk, than those who are not married or in unhappy relationships. That’s because marital conflict creates biological stress,Continue reading “Improve Your Health Through Mindful Relationships”

How to Calm Your Partner Down in Conflict

Practice mindful partnering to be better at conflict. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships That hot-button issue comes up yet again in your relationship. All of a sudden, your partner is angry, and the conversation is completely off the rails. A tiny trigger such as the dishes or talking about plans forContinue reading “How to Calm Your Partner Down in Conflict”

Mindful Relationships May Be Key to Mental Health

Research points to the importance of focusing on your relationships. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships Ever wonder what might underlie and predict the differences between those who live full, satisfying lives and those who can’t seem to break out of their struggle into old age? The results of the longest-running longitudinalContinue reading “Mindful Relationships May Be Key to Mental Health”

The Biggest Lie You’ve Been Told About Stress Relief

The myth of over-breathing and how it hurts, not helps. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships “Take a deep breath.” We’ve all heard those four words. In fact, they’re undoubtedly the most common advice we hear on how to calm down in moments of stress or anxiety. Now, science tells us, deepContinue reading “The Biggest Lie You’ve Been Told About Stress Relief”

5 Ways to Be a Better Partner

What does it mean to be a mindful partner? Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships We hear a lot about the benefits of mindfulness, which can be thought of as relating to the environment or oneself with nonjudgmental, present-moment awareness. But, can we relate in this mindful way to others in our livesContinue reading “5 Ways to Be a Better Partner”

Here’s Why Your Coping Skills Don’t Work

Coping is a subtle form of avoidance that maintains psychological distress. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships You’ve tried everything you can think to do: positive affirmations, relaxation strategies, staying away from triggering situations, talking yourself out of your thoughts. And still, your struggles with your inner demons persist. It might beContinue reading “Here’s Why Your Coping Skills Don’t Work”

Can Fighting with Your Partner Change Your Biology?

The way you communicate with your partner could impact how your body functions. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships Key Points: When you’re in a tiff with your partner, you probably aren’t thinking about how you’re changing the concentration of your body’s hormones for years to come. Recent evidence suggests that theContinue reading “Can Fighting with Your Partner Change Your Biology?”

4 Ways to Pandemic-Proof Your Relationship

Simple strategies to maintain connection and minimize conflict during COVID-19. Originally published on my Psychology Today Blog, Mindful Relationships Our lives are nothing like they were a year ago. COVID-19 has thrown out our usual way of working, recreating, and relating. The professional and leisure impacts of the pandemic are clear to all of us.Continue reading “4 Ways to Pandemic-Proof Your Relationship”

Best Life Online: This Is the One Word You Should Never Say When Apologizing

I am featured as an expert in this article, published in Best Life Online. Included here is a short excerpt of the article. “The word ‘but’ is not an apology—it is self-protection disguised as an apology,” says Tasha Seiter, MS, AMFT, who owns her own marriage and family therapy practice in Fort Collins, Colorado. Seiter says the problemContinue reading “Best Life Online: This Is the One Word You Should Never Say When Apologizing”

Mic: Will the Pandemic End Small Talk Forever? Experts Weigh In.

Written by Tracey Anne Duncan of Mic, I comment here as a relationship expert. “COVID-19 has changed the way that we communicate forever,” says Tasha Seiter, a Colorado-based psychotherapist who specializes in helping people with their relationship communication skills. “Just going through this experience, we are more aware of how vulnerable our ‘normal’ is. WeContinue reading “Mic: Will the Pandemic End Small Talk Forever? Experts Weigh In.”